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Manshen Lo

One way to calm an anxious mind: Notice when you’re doing OK

Sep 29, 2020 / + + +

To keep our ancestors alive, our brains evolved an ongoing internal trickle of unease.
It’s the little whisper of worry that keeps you scanning your inner and outer worlds for signs of trouble.

This background of unsettledness and watchfulness is so automatic to most people that we can forget it’s there.

See if you can tune in to a tension, guarding or bracing in your body. It could also be a vigilance about your environment or other people. Or a block against completely relaxing, letting your guard down or letting go.

While the brain’s default setting of apprehensiveness is a great way to keep a monkey aware of predators, it’s a crummy way for humans to live.

It wears down our well-being, feeds anxiety and depression and makes us turn away from the things that matter to us. And it’s based on a lie.

In effect, that uneasiness in the background is continually whispering in your mental ear: “You’re not safe, you’re surrounded by threats, you can never afford to lower your guard.”

But take a close look at this moment, right now — probably, you are basically all right. No one is attacking you, you are not sick, there is no crisis where you sit.

Things may be far from perfect, but you’re OK.

By “right now,” I mean this moment. When our mind goes into the future, we worry and plan. When our mind goes into the past, we resent and regret. Threads of fear are woven into the mental tapestries of past and future.

Look again at this thin slice of time that is the present. In this moment, are you basically OK? Are you breathing? Is your heart beating? Is your mind working?

In daily life, it’s possible to access this fundamental sense of all-rightness even while you’re getting things done. You’re not ignoring real threats or issues or pretending that everything is perfect — it’s not.

But in the middle of everything, you can usually see that you’re actually all right, right now.

Several times a day, notice that you’re basically all right. You may want more certainty or love or ketchup for your French fries. Or you may want less pain or heartache or unemployment. All reasonable.

But meanwhile, underneath all the to-ing and fro-ing, you are OK. Underneath your desires and activities is an aliveness and an awareness that is doing fine this second.

There you are fixing dinner.

Notice that you’re all right, right now, and perhaps say that softly in your mind.

Or you’re driving. Say, “I’m all right, right now.”

Or you’re talking with someone on a video call: “I’m all right, right now.”

Or doing emails or putting a child to bed: “I’m all right, right now.”

Notice that while feeling all right, right now, you can still get things done and deal with problems. The fear that bad things will happen if you let yourself feel OK is unfounded; let this sink in. You do not need to fear feeling all right.

Sometimes, of course, you’re really not all right. Maybe something terrible has happened, or your body is very disturbed, or your mind is very upset. Do what you can at these times to ride out the storm.

But as soon as possible, notice that the core of your being is OK, like the quiet place 50 feet underwater, beneath a hurricane howling above the sea.

Noticing that you’re actually all right, right now is not laying a positive attitude over your life like a pretty veil. Instead, you are knowing a simple but profound fact: “In this moment I am all right.”

You are sensing the truth in your body — deeper than fear — that it is breathing and living and OK. You are recognizing that your mind is functioning fine, no matter how nutty and not-fine the contents swirling through it are.

Settling into this basic sense of okayness is a powerful way to build well-being and resources in your brain and being, and it’s a way of taking a stand for the truth.

News Story Tuesday, September 29, 2020

A message to keep our frequency high...

#astrology The next two months are likely to be the most extreme we will have experienced. I say that not to worry you, indeed quite the opposite. It is so important that we keep our frequency high in these two months, as the old order unravels.
We are seeing the old paradigm crumbling before our eyes every day, and through 2020 we have seen how faithfully the Saturn-Pluto conjunction with its historical associations of abuse of power has played out. We are entering the final crescendo of this, the last major battle of the last gasp and grasp on power.
This is not the say that the collapse of the old order will be complete by the end of this year, I feel the demolition will rumble on perhaps even to 2023 when Pluto enters Aquarius. However, this is the biggie, in astrological terms.
I have been talking all year about Saturn and Pluto in Capricorn representing the control and power of governments, authority figures, and institutions that have a top-down structure, that operate on rules and regulations, 'we are telling you what to do'. It was inevitable that these were going to become more authoritarian as the year went on, which we have clearly seen. Now, Mars in Aries is squaring Saturn in Capricorn, and this will become exact on the 29th September at 25° Aries/Capricorn. Mars in Aries is the assertion of individual rights and freedoms, meeting the heavy hand of law and order with Saturn in Capricorn. A very clear example of this was what happened in London today. This is intensified by the fact that on the 29th also Saturn moves stationary direct, emphasising its themes of power and control by governments and their agencies. I have spoken and written recently how I expected that close to this time we would see more restrictions emerging again in various countries, and hey presto, here they are.
This is intensified further by Pluto moving stationary direct on the 4th at 22°29' Capricorn, within 16' of the Saturn-Pluto conjunction of 12th January and therefore reiterating its themes. Pluto is barely moving, drilling down at 22° Capricorn all of September, October, and into late November. So if you have any planets around 22° of the Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn) you will be feeling this intensity; issues around power, control, manipulation, or illuminating perhaps where you have not used your power in life.
It is incredibly important in the next two months particularly that you keep your frequency high in joy, love, gratitude, appreciation, and peace. I am not being Pollyanna here. I am aware that every single one of us is feeling the pressure of what is unfolding, people are losing their jobs, businesses are collapsing, sick people can't get treatment because the hospitals are being priorised for the virus, and mental health, domestic violence and suicide rates are soaring. We are all aware of this, and it is very distressing indeed. But somehow we HAVE to shift our focus from fear, despair, and anger at all this to something much higher. If we keep energising the chaos with our attention, that is what we will be recreating in our futures, individually and collectively.
Understanding how to use our energy is the greatest power we have, and we all have this in every moment, for free, available to us. We are all thinking thoughts and feeling emotions in every waking moment. Start to become super conscious of these, and be very disciplined in turning your focus from fear to gratitude. Stop watching mainstream media - I have been so much happier since I stopped watching this completely 6 months ago. Find the tiniest thing to be grateful for - fresh air, blue sky. Keep your frequency high by singing, dancing, humming, toning, staring into a candle flame, breath work, yoga, tai-chi, qigong, playing with a child, a pet, watching a sunset, anything - and DO THIS AS AN EXPERIMENT FOR THE NEXT TWO MONTHS.
The way our reality is formed according to the quantum model is that the frequency we are broadcasting 24/7 becomes the attractor for events and experiences that are a frequency match to what you are putting out, and matter coalesces around those frequency waves. So the more you practice this, the easier it becomes, as joy and love become your default frequencies and you don't need to check yourself so often, you are living in the flow more. Watch over the coming weeks how your reality starts to change. Personally, I feel I am certainly less engaged with the chaos, I am aware of it, but give no energy to it. I give my energy to what I want to create, which I hope will benefit us all.
Some people who are very disciplined in their practice are already living in bliss, in 5D. This is available to all of us, in every moment, but it's down to us, no-one can do this for us, fix us or save us. It's an individual responsibility.
So this is a real call from the heart for all of our benefit. This particular period of two months is so vital because the crumbling of the old and the consequent chaos is throwing all the possibilities up into the air, if you like, an it is more important than ever that WE decide where they land, in creating our future.
We are going to be experiencing some head-spinning shocks and surprises over the next two months too, some may be galactic, but use Mars in Aries retrograde as your stabilising hero energy, strong sense of self all through this. Set your GPS on a much, much more loving world for us all. This is the most intense collapse of the old, but therefore OUR GREATEST OPPORTUNITY to create a quantum jump in our evolution. I cannot emphasise that enough, and if we all come together energetically in these efforts we will develop unstoppable momentum.
There will be a huge wave of new light codes and evolutionary energy on 21st December 2020, and I will talk about that more as we get closer to it. We are being helped by the new light energy streaming into the Earth, and by benevolent galactics, as our whole galaxy is involved in this upgrade. We will have another major wave of positive energy at the Aries Equinox in March 2021. The next two months as I say are so vital to ride the wave of joy, love, peace, gratitude and abundance, you don't need to know the details of how it will work out, just trust the plan and join in the experiment of a lifetime to create a better world. I can't express how strongly I feel about this - if I wasn't English I would be shouting it - as it is so imperative to make the biggest jump we can, irrespective of current circumstances, to a reality that we can barely dream of today.
Blessings to you all in this experiment, we are all in this together!

7 Modern Life Habits That Can Be Incredibly Bad For Your Brain Health

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7 Modern Life Habits That Can Be Incredibly Bad For Your Brain Health

Lifestyle habits that influence your cognitive health and what to do about them.Thomas Oppong


Illustration by Sean Gladwell / Getty Images.

In an era of better technology, we are all being rewired to do more to the detriment of our brains. According to experts, our modern lifestyle is chipping away at neural pathways and making us slower, denser and less capable of original thought. Hyperconnectivity is increasingly taking its toll on our brains. In the end, we end up less productive and ineffective.

When it comes to our health, we don’t always think about nurturing our brains the way we nourish our bodies. But to be our most productive self, we need to do more of what improves our brain health, and less of what causes cognitive decline. Start by adjusting your daily habits and avoiding these common modern habits — your mind will thank you.

1. The Brain Drain of Inactivity

Physical inactivity has its price tags — It’s linked to the development of chronic health problems like heart disease, obesity, depression, dementia, and cancer. Many people are too busy to make time for “basic movement activities” that can slow cognitive decline — walking, cycling, stretching, etc.

Being sedentary changes the shape of certain neurons in the brain, according to a study in the Journal of Comparative Neurology that suggests a link between inactivity and mental decline.

Regular physical activity can benefit you cognitively — increase brain chemicals which promote better memory and learning, and medically. You know this though. Knowledge of the benefits of exercise is not a problem in the modern world, it’s the application of relevant information.

2. Think You’re Multitasking? Think Again

Our smartphones have become Swiss army knives. We use them all the time. We text while we’re walking across the street, catch up on email while commuting, read or listen to podcasts while standing in a queue.

You’ve likely heard that multitasking is bad for your productivity. It turns out, it’s a habit that also rewires the brain and makes you less effective.

Earl Miller, a neuroscientist at MIT and one of the world experts on divided attention, says that our brains are “not wired to multitask well… When people think they’re multitasking, they’re actually just switching from one task to another very rapidly. And every time they do, there’s a cognitive cost in doing so.”

Multitasking also increases the stress hormone cortisol as well as the fight-or-flight hormone adrenaline, which can overstimulate your brain and cause mental fog or scrambled thinking.

3. Information Overload Leads to Unnecessary Overstimulation of the Brain

The sheer volume of emails, social updates, and notifications we receive can be overwhelming — it takes a huge bite out of the day for many people. The constant stream of content if not managed can cause stress and lead to decision overload.

“Information overload is one of the biggest irritations in modern life”, writes Schumpeter of The Economist.

Some people proudly boast of how many things they can juggle in a single day. Glenn Wilson, former visiting professor of psychology at Gresham College, London found out in his research that being in a situation where you are trying to concentrate on a task, and an email is sitting unread in your inbox, can reduce your effective IQ by 10 points.

To maximize your brain every day, use better tools and settings to filter information throughout the day. Be proactive about how you consume media. Prepare your brain to ignore unnecessary information. When you organize your day with these principles in mind, you will likely increase your brain’s efficiency significantly.

4. Sitting for Too Long Is Hurting You

Sitting is one of the worst things we can do for our health. A UCLA study reports that people who are more sedentary have thinning in brain regions linked to memory.

It finds that sitting isn’t just a physical health risk — it’s a neurological risk as well. The authors write in their paper, “it is possible that sedentary behaviour is a more significant predictor of brain structure, specifically [medial temporal lobe] thickness, and that physical activity, even at higher levels, is not sufficient to offset the harmful effects of sitting for extended periods of time.”

You can reduce the amount of sitting you do by adopting interventions like moderate walking, standing while working, even for just 10 minutes at a time, standup meetings — it offers the opportunity to sit less, move more and conduct short meetings.

5. All That Screen Time Can Negatively Impact Our Mental and Emotional Well-Being

Today, face-to-face interactions are increasingly being replaced by digital tools. People spend more time online than ever before.

“Anything with a screen — television, phones, tablets, computers, video games — constitutes screen time,” explains Tom Kersting, a licensed psychotherapist and an expert in the field of mental health and parenting in the digital age. “If the majority of our waking hours entails looking at a screen, then we know it is way too much.”

A face-to-face conversation is incredibly beneficial for your brain. A study by the University of Michigan found that even just 10 minutes per day of conversation with another person improved memory and cognition.

“In our study, socializing was just as effective as more traditional kinds of mental exercise in boosting memory and intellectual performance,” said Oscar Ybarra, a psychologist at the U-M Institute for Social Research (ISR) and a lead author of the study with ISR psychologist Eugene Burnstein and psychologist Piotr Winkielman from the University of California, San Diego.

The lack of true personal interaction limits the brain’s opportunities to make better connections. It can also lead to loneliness and depression — mental conditions that contribute significantly to reduced brain health.

Looking at screens all day can hurt your eyes, ears, neck, shoulders, back, wrists, and forearms. It also interferes with getting a good night’s sleep.

According to experts, excessive screen time has a negative effect on intellectual abilities as well as emotional well-being.

Set clear boundaries with screens to avoid developing detrimental habits. The goal isn’t to avoid screen time entirely, as that’s not realistic in modern life. However, if you’re going to use a device, be mindful.

6. It’s Surprisingly Easy for Your Headphones to Damage the Parts of the Ear Vital to Healthy Hearing

People, by nature, love to switch up the volume. It makes the music sounds more “fun” and immersive. In the age of noise-cancelling earbuds and headphones, you can easily damage your hearing.

When the rest of the world gets too distracting, it’s tempting to pop in your earbuds, crank up your favourite tunes, and close yourself off to focus better.

If you consistently blast your music too loudly, you can damage your hearing. But it’s not just your ears: Hearing loss in older adults is linked to brain problems, such as Alzheimer’s and loss of brain tissue.

When your brain has to work so hard to understand what’s being said around you, it can’t store what you’ve heard into memory. So, protect your hearing by adjusting the volume of your headphones — it’s an excellent way to preserve your hearing and allow your brain to work better.

“One test we recommend is to remove your headphones, keeping them at your preferred volume, and hold them out in front of you at an arm’s length. Can you hear the music clearly? If so, try turning it down and repeating again,” writes Headphonesty. Always aim to take regular breaks during the course of the day to give your ears a much-needed rest.

7. Sleeping Poorly Upsets Your Brain

Insufficient sleep is a huge problem for many busy professionals. Sleep deprivation can have serious short-term and long-term consequences — it can delay reaction times, glucose levels, mood, headache, impaired memory, and hormone imbalances. Recent research shows that not getting enough sleep may actually shrink your brain.

Sleep is absolutely essential for your brain. When you deprive your brain healthy sleep, how it process information, consolidates memories, make connections, and clear out toxins suffers.

Lack of sleep slows down your thinking, impairs your memory, concentration, judgment, and decision-making, and impedes learning.

Improving your sleep habits could be an important way to improve brain health. 7–8 hours/night of good sleep is essential for stimulating new connections and brain growth.

If you are concerned about the health of your brain and the quality of your thinking now or in the future, learn to take care of your brain. A few simple changes to your lifestyle could boost your memory, learning, mental resilience and overall health of your brain.

Thomas Oppong is the founder of AllTopStartups and writes on science-based answers to problems in life about creativity, productivity, and self-improvement.

News Story Friday, September 11, 2020



How you can to change your day in a moment if it’s not going well?

Change your thought, change your moment, change your day...

Change how you are reacting to the moment; your choice gives you your moment.

News Story Wednesday, September 02, 2020

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer ~ Is Your Life On Automatic Pilot?

Is Your Life on Automatic Pilot?

I refuse to accept the idea that we have an unconscious mind that defies us by being completely inaccessible. To me, this is a prescription for believing that for the major portion of our lives, we’re controlled by unseen and unavailable forces residing within us. I recognize that we’re often totally unaware of why we’re behaving in certain ways, but this implies that we have no choice in the matter. Awareness is the simple key for alleviating this condition.

Have regular conversations with your subconscious—remind it that you don’t want to go through life on automatic pilot. Discuss your unwillingness to be a victim of the whims of that “ghost in the machine” of your body, whose orders originate in the mind viruses and thinking habits that were programmed into it by people who are either long dead or no longer play a role in your adult life.

I usually tell my own habitual mind things like this: “I know that I have some really silly leftover habits that were instilled in me a long time ago, and I want you to know that I’m no longer interested in having my actions dictated by you. I’m bringing all of those old habits of thought to the surface, and I’m going to make a conscious effort to be more aware of all aspects of my life.”

I had a conversation like this recently regarding my inclination to misplace my keys. I treated the ghost inside of me that always seemed to place my car keys in difficult-to-find locations as if it were a real person. While this may seem like an insignificant little habit, for me, changing it was huge. Now I rarely misplace my keys.

Initiate a conversation with your subconscious mind in which you make it clear that you’re not going to let part of your life be run by an invisible stranger who acts and reacts on the basis of memetic or genetic programming. Instead, decide that you’re no longer going to allow (or excuse) behavior from an unconscious part of yourself.

I encourage you to begin a practice of being more mindful. This is in fact what I did to end my lifetime habit of being forgetful, particularly when it came to where I placed my car keys.

At one time, I simply excused my can’t-find-my-keys behavior with this label: “I’m forgetful.” I can recall both my mother and my wife often exclaiming, “Oh, that’s Wayne, our absentminded professor!” Memes buried within my subconscious became useful excuses for explaining my habit of being forgetful . . . but then I discovered how to be mindful. I began to practice being conscious of what I used to do unconsciously, and it worked!

Each time I came into the house, I made a decision to be aware of my keys in my hand—to feel the texture and shape of each one of them, to hold them with awareness, to listen to the jingle-jangle sound—and then place them in a special spot reserved just for them. And lo and behold, an old unconscious habit had been brought to the surface and into my conscious mind, causing that old excuse of being forgetful to be eradicated. (On the rare day when I can’t find my keys now, it only serves to reinforce my commitment to stay mindful.)

By the same token, there was a time when my yoga practice could deteriorate into a boring routine and I’d become frustrated with myself; or while swimming in the ocean, running along the beach, or even sitting and writing, I could get lost in my old forgetfulness and lose sight of the glorious feeling that’s available in all human activity. I found that practicing mindfulness in many ways throughout my day helped immensely.

These days when I swim, I experience my arms moving, my legs kicking, my shoulders stretching, the feel and taste of the salt water, my fingers cupped and moving the water, my breathing, my heart rate . . . all of it. Practicing mindfulness has taught me how to be in the moment and find my self as well as my keys!

Handling Standing In Line In These Times....

Listen in and hear about handling standing in line in these times.....

What is Life Coaching?

Hello There,

Thank you for visiting this Complimentary Discovery Session Invite Video. Life Coaching really is for everyone. A life coach is that person that will be hearing and listening to your story with full attention. A discovery session is a space for us to meet and hear your story... Please feel free to text 905-321-4405 and ask for your day and time Complimentary one hour discovery session. I will look forward to meeting you online or in person. At this time, I have been having social distance sessions in my beautiful space in my garden yard that is a space held for you. Otherwise to be really convenient, we can chat live on many online networks, messenger, skype, zoom, facetime... whatever works for you.

I look forward to meeting you....and be sure and check out my website for reviews, blogs, news FYI. Life Coaching is all about you~ Get focused, get moving and start feeling good to be alive again... see you soon...


A Mini Session video ~ on keeping motivation with your daily routines....

Welcome to Today's Mind Joy Coaching Moment....

Hi there welcome to a Mind Joy moment in my garden today. I'm going to very briefly talk to you about daily routines. One great thing that you can do everyday is make your bed. When you're making your bed everyday rain or shine busy or not. When you make time for making your bed, it aligns your entire day for focusing on getting things done. It just really brings in this feeling of motivation that you are aligning your day and bringing yourself into focus on what's next. This is also creating confidence in your ability to keep your word with yourself. Making your bed everyday creates you to have an impact on your ability to keep your word with other things that are going to happen in your day. So today, make your bed! And that is today's mind joy life coaching moment.

Intuitive Life Coach Guidance out of Procrastination

Clean it Up! It's Spring! When you are procrastinating you are not really getting away with anything, your actually taking away from yourself. Accountability to Change is your answer...find out more
here on how to get  A one hour complimentary discovery session is the place to begin. You can reach Charlene by text 905-321-4405 and ask for your time and day for your discovery session....

News Story Wednesday, March 25, 2020

The Art of Living Together

The Art of Living Together
Practicing the Second Agreement... How to not take anyone personally.....

If we are expecting the world to be nice and the world to cooperate and for the world to keep operating like the way we are used to....we will have issues with resistance and defensiveness and expectations from others in any given moment.
If you want to believe this, you got that. If you want to believe this you got that. The reasoning mind needs to choose the that, which will give you what you want. But you first have to believe you have a choice and then you have to choose, knowing and understanding that each that has a natural consequence and which consequence do you want to live in?
Example, I'm scared that I won't be able to handle so and so in the house right now, I have no choice I am quarantined with them... you can choose to continue to act out and react to wanting to control how that person is behaving. Your responsibility is to know that you are the chooser, and each choice you make gets you what you want by natural law. We are beings with conscious powerful energy. And we do decide, and we do experience natural consequences in every thought; Each thought leads to the outcome from that thought which creates the experience in the moment with that person, that circumstance, that reaction. So realize you are experiencing natural consequence from your thought that made you react .
Lets review this understanding.... if you want to believe this, you get that, you own it, it's yours. Know that you have a choice. Understand your choice on how you are going react is going to give you the natural consequence. If you feel you need to be right and the other wrong, then realize that you are adding to the fear and the stress of any given situation or moment. you are in with another and expecting the person to agree, but in the meantime you do not realize that it is what you are believing which is giving you what you are getting...
How are you going to choose how you respond to someone's behaviour that you don't approve of and are you going to continue to allow your reaction to effect your day?
Don't be fooled, you will react to tone of voice and this will trigger you into old reactive patterns. Step back, be the watcher of the person in front of you instead of the reactor, this will not leave you r comfort zone and the other person gets to be who they are...receiving their own natural consequences from their own choice of....if they want to believe what they got, then they own it, and you get to hold on to your personal power and just watch them be who they are.
Remember the serenity prayer.... God Grant Me The Serenity To Accept The People I Cannot Change, The Courage to Change The People I Can (By knowing I own every reaction I give to another even if I don't agree with their tone or their behaviour) And To Know The Wisdom To Know The Difference.
In Understanding this prayer we find ourselves able to take comfort in knowing we choose what we believe and we get what we get from that belief, and this makes a world of difference in how households around the planet right now can learn to get along and practice living in the second agreement in everyday circumstances in little moments between each other.
Best Advice from this Life Coach..... Be The Watcher, Not the Reactor. And watch with love not condemnation or judgement, but just allow the other person to feel heard and visible and loved no matter their energy because mostly every one is reacting from a fearful place right now, because we do not know the future. This is a moment to seize from striving through fear and let go and release into a new knowing, a possible new belief that you get to choose every moment how you will react, and practice not taking anyone personally and owning your power by faith.

News Story Friday, August 30, 2019

Mind Joy Life Coaching has been nominated for the Reader Choice Awards 2019

This is exciting! Mind Joy Life Coaching has been nominated for the Reader Choice Awards 2019! 





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